Darmi is a woman who works for the
social service company in Surabaya. She works in one of the branches which is
in Villa Kalijudan Surabaya. Darmi was
born on June 1971. She did not want to tell me the date of her birth. She was
born in Jombang, East Java. Darmi was
not born in a wealthy family, just average and normal one. She recalled she did
not have any certain unforgettable childhood memory. She was a normal happy kid like the most of
kids. Her family was a very loving one, they supported her and taught her so
many things.
She
started her education at the age of 6 like the usual kids would do. Her parents had to work hard to pay her needs
and school fees. Darmi appreciated that a lot. She would help her mother doing
the chores whenever she got back from school of even in her free time. She was
such a good and nice kid. After completing her elementary, she went to a public
secondary school in Jombang. Civic was her most favourite subject at that time.
For her, it was a really good subject that it taught people how to respect the
others and so many morals. In her school, she liked to help whoever needed
help. She would help with her best. When
the secondary was finished, she went to another public high school which
luckily she thought she could pass within 3 years.
After
her education was completed, she decided not to continue her higher education.
She wanted to work instead. However, she met a man and fell in love with him.
They got married and had their first born child in 1996. It was a baby girl.
Darmi realized that taking care of a child and working at the same time was
hard. Hence, she decided to stay at home and took care of her child. Her
husband was the one who worked full time and she thought it was enough for that
time. She kept a thing in mind that eventually she would have to work but not
until her child was ready to be left alone or atleast could take care of her
self. For her, family was everything. Family meant the very important thing and
firt priority in life.
Once
her kid was finally ready and old enough.
Darmi decided to start working. She applied in one factory as a labor.
As a worker, she knew that she had to work hard full time. It was totally new
for her. She had to leave early morning and came back late evening, even
sometimes she had to stay the night when their work was too much. She admitted
that working there was not bad and she enjoyed it. However, there was this time
that she had to quit due to her family moving out to another town which was
Surabaya. She was actually felt a bit glad because she said that working
ina factory as a labor was very tiring
and took much of time.
In
Surabaya, she decided to look for a new job. Knowing Surabaya is a big city,
she knew it was hard to get a proper job there. It was all until a friend told
her about one vacancy to be a worker mostly like a nanny in one social service
house. She doubted it at first but she was willing to try because she had no
options that time. In this service house, she was expected to be the nanny of
disable kids. This social service house had so many orphan disable kids who
were abandoned by their parents and family. Many of them were found in the
street so they were brought there to be taken care of properly and given
attention. Finally, she took the job in 2011.
On
the first two weeks working there, she did not feel okay with everything. She
was only allowed to go home at the weekend so it was hard for her not to get to
meet her family in the weekdays. Taking care of disable kids was not easy for
her. There was 25 of them who were girls and had to be taken care of everyday.
Darmi worked with a partner who was also new there and she felt the same way.
However, they tried to cope up with all of that.
As
the time flies, she was getting used to everything there. She felt really bad
watching all the kids who were disabled and yet abandoned by their families.
She could not bear with that and did not want to do the same thing like their
family did. That was why she decided to stay and take care of them. Darmi had
to bath them everyday, prepared all their foods, played with them, taught them
things, even calmed some of them down if they cried or sad. She slept in the
same room with them. One big room consisted of 6 kids and there were around 5
room.
Now,
she admitted she loves the kids just like she loves her own kids. She is so
patient with them. For her, they are still the same human beings like everyone
else, it is just that they are a bit different and need special treatment. It
is such a wonderful feeling to see them growing and laughing. They are now part
of her family. Darmi says that family does not always have to involve the same
blood, people do not need to be biological to be a family. She is now enjoying
her job so much as she can help others and all. She even goes on holiday with
them because the house takes them to a holiday once in 3 months. Her own
daughter has now grown up and studying her college education in STIKES. She is
so proud of her.
Darmi
is really grateful of her life. She said that it gave you another special
feeling if you could help others in needs and make them happy. For her,
happines has a simple meaning which is being able to help others and be loved
is happiness. Now that she has been staying in the social service house for 5
years, the kids do not want to be left by her. They would cry whenever Darmi
had to go home for the weekend to visit her family. It broke her heart to see
that because they were all get used to be with her all the time. Hence, she
decided to stay and will not leave them because she already feels comfortable
enough and love them all equally like her own children.